July is Disability Pride Month 🌈 So I wanted to end this important month by sharing a poem I wrote. I feel it ties in nicely with the sentiment.
For anyone who is living with a disability, visible or invisible – you matter and deserve to feel connected to the world and everyone in it. I see you xx
I prepare for a daily battle, Against something that cannot be seen. The chance of attack is quite certain, From a foe, relentless and mean. I try not to show how I’m feeling. Knowing my fight’s just begun. It is hard to carry such pain all alone, The shame of a war never won. On bad days I want to surrender. It all feels too much to bear. Yet something inside me just keeps pushing on, I know that I must persevere. This invisible force is tyrannic and cruel. In its wake leaves massive destruction. Compassion and hope will lead the defence, Against this satanic affliction. Be kind to others as you walk through your pain. For you have no idea of theirs. Together our force is unyielding, Its powered by all that we share.
Does your mind often resemble a chaotic theme park? Are you thoughts jumping on every white knuckle ride available, leaving you nauseous and dizzy? Is there are huge cinema screen in the middle showing reels of your past you would rather forget?
Sounds horrendous right? I imagine even the most hardcore adrenaline junkie would think twice about visiting! Unfortunately, due to the way our minds work we often find ourselves stuck there.
So what can we do when our thoughts are racing and overwhelming us? How can we cope with painful memories forcing their way in uninvited? Is mindfulness the answer?
We are always thinking. Experts suggest we have between 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day! Not a problem if our thoughts are all sunshine and roses. Of course that isn’t the case.
How does living in the moment help us?
Well, thoughts focused on past events, particularly things that have caused stress, pain or embarrassment can cause low mood. Focusing too much on the future, or rather how we anticipate the future to be can exacerbate anxiety. Therefore, the most mindful place for our thoughts to be is in the here and now.
While this makes sense, it is easier said than done. Mindfulness needs to be practiced regularly to be of benefit. Many people don’t get on with it at all. Like every aspect of mental health and wellbeing, it will unique to the individual. Finding what works for you is key!
“Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience” Jon Kabat-Zin